Why are women treated the way they are?

Recent nauseating and blood curdling incidents like the Mangalore attack on young girls to protect the ‘honour’ of Hindu women by Sri Ram Sena hooligans and the ‘honour’ killing of a newly wed couple in Punjab made me wonder what the term ‘honour’ actually meant…

According to the Oxford Dictionary honour (noun) implies:

1. High respect
2. Pride and pleasure from being shown respect
3. A clear sense of what is morally right
4. A person or thing that brings credit

Neither of the above-mentioned acts was morally right (even though the goonadas of Sri Ram Sena claimed their intentions were in line with Hindu morality) or respectful (thrashing, molesting or murder of another human being indicates high disregard for feelings and rights of others)…These acts were plain criminal and were about power and control…

From where did the concept of women as vessels of religious, cultural, societal and familial reputations arise? It arose from men…Why are these crimes excusable and understandable? Because men say so…Across religions and cultures, women have always been looked upon as the property of men and not as human beings… If men (as they contend) are so concerned about their (own) honour, why aren’t they responsible for protecting it? Why should only women embody the honour of the men to whom they “belong”? Why can’t men embody the honour of the women in their family and community? Why aren’t rape, honour killings, alcoholism, adultery and domestic violence considered dishonourable and immoral? Again, because men say so…

Everything is ultimately about control…The need to curb and control the rights of women arose from the need for men to ensure that their children were biologically theirs…For some reason, (most) men consider name and bloodline to be the most important thing in the world…

This attitude of women as property of men is even enshrined in the Indian Penal Code (IPC):

Section 497: Adultery
Whoever has sexual intercourse with a person who is and whom he knows or has reason to believe to be the wife of another man, without the consent or connivance of that man, such sexual intercourse not amounting to the offence of rap, is guilty of the offence of adultery, and shall be punished with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to five years, or with fine, or with both. In such case the wife shall be punishable as an abettor.

Section 498: Enticing or taking away or detaining with criminal intent a married woman
Whoever takes or entices away any woman who is and whom he knows or has reason to believe to be the wife of any other man, from that man, or from any person having the care of her on behalf of that man, with intent that she may have illicit intercourse with any person, or conceals or detains with that intent any such woman, shall be punished with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to two years, or with fine, or with both.

So, how does one resolve this situation? Will education do the job? Well, all this time I thought so (and still do) until I read this story:…

Two politicians accused of brutal attitudes towards women have been made cabinet ministers in Pakistan, causing outrage among human rights activists.
Mir Hazar Khan Bijarani, charged with presiding over a “jirga” that gave away five young girls as a form of compensation, and Israr Ullah Zehri, who recently made international headlines after defending the burying alive of women in “honour-killing” cases, have been elevated to ministry positions.

Last year the Supreme Court ordered the arrest of the Oxford-educated Mr Bijarani over the allegations, though he remained at liberty. He has been made minister for education…

…Mr Zehri, a member of a minor party in the coalition, has been made minister for postal services. Earlier this year, in response to news that three teenage girls had been buried alive for trying to choose husbands, he told the parliament it was a “tribal tradition”.

I still think education is important (and by this I don’t mean just learning how to read and write) but it has to be ‘backed-up’ by legal protection….Unless the current laws are changed, things will not improve…

The rule “You never hit a girl/woman ever” may seem antiquated but it still holds true…When will men realize that?


11 thoughts on “Why are women treated the way they are?

  1. It’s still a jungle out there. Might is right. Whether we have countries exploiting that law to bully, even invade, weaker countries or religions that recognise that man is physically stornger than woman.

    Education will help, has helped, but there will always be those who follow the jungle rule. In the West, the porn industry is also basically about exploitation of women…

    People like us have to keep fighting and raising our voices so that shameful incidents like the one we saw in Mangalore are not repeated…the pressure has already drawn a public apology from the head of the Sri Ram Sena…much more needs to be done


  2. true Vinod…

    The head of Sri Ram Sena didn’t look at all apologetic…He tried to get people’s attention to the fact that the girls were underage etc. …


  3. What happend is most reprihensible and cannot be excused.I wonder if it is Indian culture to beat up women. And who gave them the authrity to act as the keeper of our morality?


  4. Sri Ram Sena are a bunch of pathological lunatics just like some feudal goons seeking violence and attention in media.

    If hooliganism, street violence, moral policing and taking law into their hands are signs of taliban, then let us see who all qualify to be termed as Taliban.

    1) Mamita Benerjee dragged a SP MP by collar in Indian parliament. Has not she taken law into her hands and was as violent as Sri Ram Sena in the middle of India Parliament?

    She is female Taliban according to the definition applied to “Sri Ram Sena”.

    2) Both Renuka Choudhury and Uma Bharati are accused of publicly slapping men (we have seen videos), they both are taliban as well.

    So, what moral authority Renuka has got? He herself is partly responsible for harassment, arrest of 1,23,000 women with out investigation under one single IPC.

    She needs attention, which her father or bf never seemed to have given.

    3) Women’s organisations attacked arrack sellers and husbands in south India, they are also taliban.

    Banning liquor is taken from south Indian feminist text books only.

    If liquor is injurious to social life in rural India, then it is equally injurious to social life in urban India as well. One guy being drunk killed 4 people just 3 km from my home in Bangalore.

    4) Couple of women’s organisations broke furniture in Delhi High court opposing whistle blower justice JD Kapoor’s 2003 statement that “Dowry law is misused”. A lot of misery would have been averted if these Taliban were arrested and punished severely in 2003 itself.

    They are also Taliban.

    5) Sri Ram sena called the girls prostitutes.
    At 20% of 1,23,000 women were threatened about false cases of “prostitution” in Indian police stations when they were arrested under 498a.

    If Sri Ram Sena is Taliban, then Indian Police is also Taliban. Ban Indian Police.

    The Sri Ram Sena are just like children in comparison to the violent behaviour shown by Indian Feminists, Indian police and women’s organisations.

    There is no difference between women’s organisations and Sri Ram Sena. Both want to oppose “drinking” by beating up the sellers and customers. Both are Taliban.

    1) If a man drinks, he is a drunkard.
    If a female drinks, then she is liberal.

    2) Drinking in Pub is social service.
    Drinking Arrack in village is criminal activity.

    3) Arrack sellers have to be attacked.
    Pub owners have to be given Ashok Chakra.

    Only Urban morons have right to drink and murder people on road.

    What a double standard?

    Sri Ram Sena has to be banned, because they are Taliban.

    Before that ban all other hardened Taliban, who slap men in public, attacked arrack shops, broke furniture in courts, lied and mislead the country.

    Ban Renuka, ban Mamita, BAN AIDWA.
    BAN Indian police, for calling innocent women prostitutes.


    If terrorist Taliban Sri Ram Sena and extortinist police and taliban women’s organisations are not banned, then people must be allowed to take law into their hands and beat up all these terrorists.

    Some 20 women are beaten and molested in Mangalore.

    The crimes committed by Indian police and UNIFEM funded feminists on Indian women (also men) are much bigger. Ban them all.


    If a male MP dragged a female MP by collar in the parliament, has society reacted in the same casual way?

    If a male MP or politician slapped a female in public view, has the society reacted casually?

    Crime has no gender.

    The social double standards are very clear.
    Female criminals get away, where as male criminals are put in jail.

    Today, being a female taliban is fashionable. After slapping men, these bitches are giving sermons on civilised behaviour.

    Save Indian family


  5. Bones this same Sumantha left the SAME COMMENT on my blog also – I haven’t published it …

    This Ram (Ravana) Sena should be banned, this guy talked of the number girls who have committed suicides last year (he said 11 girls) and how three of them were pregnant – this kind of crap is what they talk – when they see EVERYBODY is condemning them, and they must malign the girls’ characters to make themselves look pure and self sacrificing!

    Just look at how much they are doing o save the nation and it’s culture.


  6. Women are treated badly because they are thought of as property. It is the same the world over. And “being nice because she is a woman” attitudes are also pointers to the same. Ought, in my opinion to be replaced by “treat a person like human being”. And well, people like Sumanth, who are Men’s rights Activists, who try to “save the family”, well the lesser said te better for them- they are among the first to indulge in slut-shaming.
    Education helps as does the questioning of “women are the weaker fairer sex” ideas. Another thing that helps is trying to treat people like human beings irrespective of gender.


  7. IHM and @lankr1ta:

    Thanks for your comments…It seems to me that this Sumanth character hasn’t had a fulfilling relationship with a woman hence, the venom…

    The basic dynamics in a family need to change…If all members of a family are treated humanely by the elders, then the children will also learn to do the same…


  8. I think it is all about power , and control . Politics . Men devised rules to reign over one half of the population ; and make their lives easier . And after taking over one half , they went ahead with their designs on how to rake in the other half , their own kind . Through religion,race,caste,language and a host of other crap . Shame on the men who fail to see a woman as a human and an equal , even after being born of one .


  9. Bones read this, What happened in Mangalore was harassment. Not moral policing. Harassment. Violent, and deeply sexist harassment. It was a form of terror, actually. Using violence in the name of nation/religion/ideology. The attack was political and deserves to be treated as premeditated political violence.

    @Kislay – I wonder if it is men verses women at all. I know both men and women who are excusing this harassment as an act to teach the girls a lesson for drinking!
    And then there are men and women who can see it for what it is – just a case of politically motivated sexual harassment.
    I think some of us value justice and liberty more than others – And individual Rights. The rest have no capacity to think …


  10. IHM:
    I agree…The attacks were premeditated (why else would they have informed the media before hand) and politically motivated…Sri Ram Sena has achieved what it set out to achieve – be known…Now they are nationally and internationally known…Remember, the elections are round the corner…With this PR effort, they may get at least one candidate elected…


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