Tap, Tap, Tap

Why am I here? Tap, tap, tap…No, no, you don’t have to answer that…It’s not an existentialist question…Tap, tap, tap…Where the hell did my idea go? A few moments ago I had a light bulb moment but now that light bulb seems to have vanished…Totally gone…Woosh!!!

Hmm?? What was it? Oh, yes! it’s come back…I knew it would!!! I’m not that old as yet…I wanted to tell you about my obsession with ‘Law & Order’ reruns…You know that American police and legal drama on NBC that went on for years and years?

I think I am (at least, I hope I am) a relatively intelligent woman with a full life but for some godforsaken reason I can watch reruns of this show a million times without getting bored and best of all, I can even watch the same episode twice in one day…I think I must have watched a few espisodes 20 times if not more and the funny part is, I can watch them again…How did Dick Wolf succeed when others have failed? What is your secret, Mr.Wolf? Please tell me!!! I don’t know why I do what I do but you know why you do what you do…Makes sense?

I don’t care who the actors are (although I must admit Sam Waterston is my favourite) or the characters are, I just love the show – the reruns though – never was truly into watching new episodes…Weird, uh?

Years ago, my husband had forwarded me an article on Slate which talked about exactly this – women’s obsession with reruns of Law & Order…Not the spin-offs mind you but the original one…So, you see, I’m not the only weird one – there are millions like me…Dick Wolf is making a hell of a lot of money from obsessed women like me…No matter which part of the world I am in, there will be at least one channel if not more showing reruns of Law & Order…

God, sociologists, whomever…Please, please study this mysterious phenomenon and let me know why I do what I do…Please put my husband out of his misery and help him get back to cricket…

 

“We Middle Class Indians Are Too Hung Up On Democracy…

What we need is a benevolent dictator…I’m glad that Modi has been elected as the PM – his autocratic style of governing is what the country needs now…He can set India straight… Anyway, who gives a s**t about democracy and individual freedoms when the country is going down the toilet? Do you think the poor care about whether they can elect the government or not? They are too busy trying earn enough to provide for their families…If you think I’m wrong then look at China – that country is something! It has sprinted way ahead of us…We need a government like that.”

“What???!!! ARE YOU CRAZY!!!”, I blurted out…Was my normally sane and intelligent friend out of her mind? I mean, yes, the poor are focussed on earning a living wage but how can a dictaorship – benevolent or not –  be better for them?

Like most Indians, I wanted change, but didn’t know whom or which party to support… Truthfully, I am not a big fan of Modi’s (now that he has the mandate, I wish him the best) as I think (like my friend) he is a bit autocratic and also am not too fond of his links to Hindu groups…

Nobody can argue with the fact that the way our country is run needs to change, and soon…But, India’s flirtation with autocratic rule in the 1970s was a disaster…As Indira Gandhi declared a state of Emergency, her political opponents were arrested, the press was censored and elections were postponed…Her goonda son Sanjay Gandhi ordered demolition of slums and forced sterilizations…Guess who the real victims of this regime were? The poorest classes, the ones who need the protection of democracy the most…No matter how chaotic our parliamentary system was at the time, it still provided them a buffer from the absolute power of the state – a state which could at any moment forcefully seize them from their homes or fields and drag them off to sterilization camps to have their you know what’s cut off..

The rest of the country (who apparently were the only ones concerned with democracy and freedoms) carried on with their lives as usual albeit with blander newspapers as long as they didn’t resist or shout out their opinions…In fact, these sections of society actually benefited because their work in government offices got done and buses and trains started running on time…

So, am I, a middle class Indian, too hung up on democracy? You bet I am…No matter how inefficient and corrupt our parliamentary system is, I prefer it a whole lot more than the one in China…

Are We Too Busy To Raise Courteous Children?

Or are we just lazy and couldn’t care less?

I live in Singapore in a condo with a substantial Indian expat community…Usually, in the evenings I sit by the pool to take in some fresh air and catch up with friends…There is a group of 10-12 Indian boys lead by two 14 year olds who play close by…Now, according to condo rules, they are not allowed to play cricket there but these boys insist on doing so even when they are asked not to by the security guards…These ‘leaders’ taunt the guards and even manhandle them when after numerous warnings their bats are confiscated…And what do parents do when called by the guards? They threaten them with bodily harm (“I’ll break your leg if you say anything to my son.”)…The condo management has come to the end of its tether and has finally lodged a complaint with the police…If things don’t improve, they will pursue this in court…As most Indians here aren’t citizens, they can be deported and/or jailed…Lives can be ruined…But who is bothered? Children? Parents?

Two months ago, there was a ‘major’ incident by the pool…One 15 year old boy got into a fight with his friend…The latter’s father intervened…What did the former do? He started abusing this gentleman (“You **cker!”) and then physically assaulted him…Meanwhile, the boy’s mother was called and instead of diffusing the situation, she joined in…She started verbally abusing the father and condoned her son’s verbal abuse (“All boys abuse”)…The locals were watching all this with shocked faces…Singaporean children are extremely well behaved…It was embarassing for us who were just sitting around…Can we blame the locals for not liking us and complaining about our behaviour? There are numerous blog posts written by locals who complain about the behaviour of expat Indians especially children in public…

There is a sense of entitlement in our children these days…I think it’s got to do with money…One of the boys from the first story had gone to my friend’s house (she has a 10 year old boy who is in awe of the 14 year old…I must admit, the latter has something in him because all the younger boys follow him)…He was talking rudely to her (she is extremely soft spoken)…Her Filipino helper couldn’t take it any more and asked him to talk with respect…What was this boy’s response? He told the helper that his monthly allowance was more than her monthly salary and so she had no right to tell him how to behave…Many parents have complained to this boy’s parents but they refuse to believe that their son is anything but an angel…Now, if five people complained about my daughter’s behaviour, I would take it seriously but not these parents…Their ladla beta could do no wrong…

Children learn from their parents…If there is no discipline at home, a sense of entitlement and disrespect is the outcome…If we don’t instill good qualities in children early on, there is no hope in hell of doing so when they are teenagers or young adults…Entitled adults shoot women when their needs are not met (Manu Sharma) or run over pedestrians with their luxury car and feel no remorse (Sanjeev Nanda)…

 

Are Men Threatened By Women?

Most people, especially men, will say no…Why should they admit to being ‘unmanly’? They are physically stronger, can run faster, have more money and power – why on earth should they feel threatened by the inferior sex?

Elliot Rodger  is proof that a vast number of men feel threatened by women…They blame all their misfortunes and woes on them…Last Friday, Rodger went on a rampage stabbing his three flatmates to death before shooting dead two young women outside a sorority house and then killing a young man inside a local deli in the coastal town of Isla Vista near the University of California – Santa Barbara…This was not enough…He then drove around in his luxury car randomly shooting at pedestrians…At the end of it all, he committed suicide…

In a Youtube video that he had uploaded the day before, he describes his plans to shoot women and promises retribution for his “loneliness and frustration” (he was a virgin at 22) at never having had a girlfriend…

So, why did this young man kill all those innocent people and himself? Because he felt he had been cheated and hadn’t received his due…He was a man, in college, the son of a movie director, walked the red carpet with his father, drove a BMW and so, was entitled to sex and female attention – and when that didn’t happen, he blamed his problems on women…With all his spectacular qualities, he had never owned women, even one woman…

And why did he kill his male flatmates? Because he was jealous of their success with women…

“All of those popular people who live hedonistic lives of pleasure, I will destroy, because they never accepted me as one of them. I will kill them all and make them suffer, just as they have made me suffer. It is only fair.”

“I would have to kill my housemates to get them out of the way,” he also wrote. “In fact, I’d even enjoy stabbing them both to death while they slept.” (link)

In the few days since the incident, Rodger has become a hero – a fan page has started on Facebook…

After all this, the media coolly ignores misogyny in favour of mental illness…Yes, maybe he was ‘crazy’ but his actions were fuelled by his hatred of women…He killed because even though he was a stellar gentleman he had failed in life because of women…He thought women were laughing at him and therefore undercutting his very existence…He (his life) was threatened by women…

 

Should Idiots Be Allowed To Speak (Write)?

Yes, legally they should because I believe in free speech (which also allows me to call unintelligent people morons) and n0, this is not a post about the moronic utterances of Arundhati Roy…

This post is about media responsibility and our culture…Take a look at this article written by Maura Kelly on Marie Claire’s website…

Excerpts:

“yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.”

“But … I think obesity is something that most people have a ton of control over. It’s something they can change, if only they put their minds to it.”

Can you imagine a newspaper or magazine publishing inflammatory articles about race, gender, or religion? Why is it OK for them to publish cruel opinions about overweight people?

I don’t think the author should have been prevented from expressing her opinion, but what gets to me is that she was given a national platform to do so, which only reflects the magazine’s own prejudices (for people who don’t know, MC is a women’s magazine, which like other similar magazines has been making money off people’s prejudices for years)…

What was the Editor doing? How hard could it have been for him or her to say, “Hey, Maura, we get your point about obesity being a health problem and we shouldn’t be laughing about it on TV, but can you tone it down a bit and be less cruel?”

Do you think CBS would have given the green light to a sitcom about cancer? I think not…So, where does this prejudice against obese people stem from? It stems from our (wrong) belief that all obese people have become that way because of their unhealthy decisions and that obesity can always be prevented…

So, what do you think?

Indians Need To Grow Up

I just read this article by Pankaj Vohra in HT…It’s his opinion of A.R.Rahman’s music…The article is ordinary but the comments are anything but ordinary…In fact, they are so extraordinary that it’ll take me a while to get over them…

Sample of comments:

“Sorry Mr. Pankah Vohra. That is pure bile and your bias shows!!! The fact that you did not mention Ilayaraja in your article shows how biased you are against Tamil film Industry. Ilayaraja, by far is the greatest composer in Indian film industry throughout its entire history bar none and if you didn’t know it then you are obviously not qualified to comment on matters related to music. That is enough for me not to read any further. Rahman is certainly not in the level of Ilayaraja, but he is not as incapable as you paint him to be.Your bias shows and shame on you!!!”

“Ya amit Take critism from a guy, who smell like sarso ka oil , and is brutal and dirty like the paki punjabi taliban isnt it”

“You’re a frog who dwells in a well & think that’s the whole world. What do you have to be proud of, other than silly nothings?
I’ve never heard Illayaraja & I never will. Tamil music sucks, just like stupid Rajnikanth. Take it!”

“Illayaraj’s Hindi scores are nothing short of pathetic and anyways Tamils have done nothing for the country. Can you name one Tamilian freedom fighter?”

“mahabali are u related to Phoolan, dirty north Indian, they have destroyed the name of iNDIA WORLD WIDE, DIRTY SMELL LIKE SARSO KA TELL , WHEN U SEE THEM JUST STAY AWAY”

“Mr Vohra is punjabi Hindu ,similar to muslim Punjabi taliban in Pakistan,so u guy know his mindset. The whole of India till Kashmir is the territory of South Indian dravidian u ,guy came from central ASIA Mr Vohra u go back there and swim in sands,dont bring ur dirty mind here,u scoundrel jealous punjabi”

“Mr Vohra is a jealous,uncultured north indian .He has again downplayed the achievements of Mr Rehman ,who is a genious.Mr Vohra is Hindu Talibn north Indian,who is comparing rehman with older generation singers.Rehman is Mr rehman and ur are as usual jealous Mr Vohra.People from North Indian are uncultured , who pee and shit on the roads in Bombay .Do u have any opinion about that Mr Vohra. All people responsible for dirty behaviour in India are from Bihar ,UP ,MP,Gujrat and Punjab,and these are the people getting beaten up in Australia ,due to there Sarso da smell.So Mr Vohra ,I sugest u F OFF.”

and they go on and on…

Why are Indians so sensitive? Why must everything become a personal issue? Why can’t we accept criticism? Why must we always be defensive? If this crass parochialism continues, India is doomed…