Yours & Mine

Should some things remain private in a marriage? Yes, I think some things should…My husband and I haven’t shared our e-mail or FB passwords with each other not because we have major secrets, but because we both believe we each need our individual space…I believe that my husband does not need to know about each and every conversation or e-mail I exchange with my family and friends because I am an individual and being married doesn’t change that…E-mails, in my opinion, fall in the same category as snail mail…I wouldn’t want my husband to open any physical correspondence addressed to me, and thankfully he doesn’t, just like he wouldn’t like me opening his mail without his knowledge…Sharing stuff with him is my choice…I would be completely smothered if my right to privacy was violated…I strongly believe that some things should remain private for a healthy and long marriage…

Some of my friends tell me our thinking is weird; by deciding not to share everything with each other at the beginning of our marriage, we had started planning for it to fail…I obviously don’t see it that way… Just because someone is exceptionally private does not necessarily mean that he or she has something to hide…I tell my husband everything, even things he’s not interested in – I just don’t want him to spy on me…Trust and love mean that you don’t need to know everything about each other and can give each other space to be who they are without you…

What do you think?

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